::the chronicles of dotdot::

1. Happy disposition

-Look for a happy, optimistic person. Find someone who has a sense of humor and can laugh at himself/herself. True happiness springs from a content heart. Beware of the person who is only happy when you are around. You’re going to get tired of being responsible for another person’s happiness. You could end up feeling guilty when the person slips into bouts of depression. True happiness is a part of a person’s character, regardless of the circumstances.

2.Thoughtfulness

-How does your date treat his parents and yours? Chances are you’ll get treated very much the same way. Does he see things that need to be done and offer to help? Or does he put his own needs first? Does he open doors for you and wait to seat you at the table?(ehem ehem) Manners are important – and they seldom get better after marriage.

3. Not easily angered

-Temper out bursts can be the symptom of internal hostility. This hostility is often repressed during courtship as a person is trying hard to be on his best behavior. Take seriously any outbursts you observe, and check with others who have known this person in different situations to see if they have noticed this trait. The way a woman treats her younger brother may be an indication of how she will treat her husband. Be leery of the person who has not learned to express his anger in words and instead merely harbors angry feelings in his heart. Going silent and withdrawing from a loved one because of anger is unhealthy and damaging to a relationship. Be sure you date a person long enough to observe how easily he or she becomes angry and how these feelings are expressed. Ask yourself, “Is this what I want to live with for a lifetime?”

4. Willing to solve problems

-It’s almost impossible to solve relationship problems by yourself. Marry someone who will be honest enough to admit being wrong, who doesn’t have a habit of blaming others.

5. Purity

-Purity is not just an old fashioned virtue. It’s just safer to date someone who hasn’t played around. Pero don’t hold it against a person for past sexual involvement. You cannot always judge a person’s true purity by virginity alone. Mind purity is equally important. Is your date pure in his thoughts and speech, as well as behaviour? What jokes does he tell? What music does he listen to? What movies does he watch? What books or magazines does she read? Are they pure or suggestive? Mind pollution can lead to disrespect of the opposite sex.

6. Truthful

-Too often couples play games when they are becoming acquainted. Playing games in a relationship is a form of dishonesty. Marriage isn’t a game. It’s a serious lifetime commitment. Search your own feelings and share honestly during your courtship. Be you!

7. Accepts Responsibility

-Here are some questions that might detect irresponsibility: Does she see things that need to be done and do them? Does he volunteer to help? Does she get to places on time? Does he make lame excuses to get out of responsibilities? Does she take her talents seriously and work to improve her skills? Does he take care of his personal possessions?… Think about it. Just how responsible is the person you are dating?

8. Good Sense of Self Worth

-Often in a dating relationship, someone with a poor self-esteem may glean a sense of value from you. They become dependent on you to make them feel good. If you don’t want to live a lifetime having to tiptoe around a person’s fragile ego or having to hold yourself back for fear of how your spouse will react, then be careful not to get emotionally involved with someone who has a low sense of self-worth.

9. Accepts you just the way you are.

-True Love is unconditional love. The important question to ask is, “Do I love her/his faults?” Only when you can truly love the total person, including all the points and bad habits, can you accept your mate for who he is and not secretly wish you could change him/her.

10. Willing to grow.

- Good marriage grow together. They encourage each other to maximize their knowledge, skills and potential. Make sure the person you date seriously is the kind of person who is open to learning and will make changes when changes need to be made.

11. Affectionate.

- The ability to express love through words and actions is vital for an intimate love relationship. Look for tender words, acts and touches that are given naturally and “appropriately” throughout the day, and not just in private(tama tama).

12. Relationship with God.

- It’s very important for a marriage partner to have a personal relationship with God. Look for someone who is spiritually sensitive and willing to follow God’s law. A spirit-filled life is one filled with love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance. A person who exhibits these traits is certainly easier to live with than someone who doesn’t. What about your date/ if you’re interested in a real Christian, make sure his faith is part of his life 24 hours a day.

Sana ay nakatulong ng malaki ang listahan na aming ibinahagi sa inyo lagi lamang tandaan na

above all, always ask God the author of Love He could never go wrong.

(from tlw.ph)

I want to have an introvert day.

I want to spend a day alone doing this:
-reading a book
-writing in my journal
-reading my Bible
-talking to God
-eating
-sleeping

I want to have a day with no contact to other people. Even just for a day. A day of peace. A day of silence.

It could me a selfish day. But it would me a day alone with myself and my Dad.

What to do? What to do?

I think I have a pretty long list of what I need to do. I may write it down but I won't be able to do it right now anyway. So I'll write it later when I wake up and the sun is shining or raindrops fall from the rooftop.

I'm still kind of high in planning and putting these plans into action. It has been two months since I felt this. It's tiring sometimes to plan and do to things but, I am still and will ever be grateful that I am in the mood of doing such.

I'm still high,not just in the mood of writing down my plans. I want to give my mind a rest from stress its suffering.

Ugh. As i write this blog, I'm struggling not to think of making any plans for tomorrow.

i want to write about something. i just don't know what to write. now, i'm starting to feel not to do anything. my mind is not functioning well right now. hello! it's 1am and i'm sick. yet i'm staying up late.

> She
> jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the
> operating room.
> She said:
> 'How is my little boy ?
> Is he going to be all right ? When can I see him ?'
> The surgeon said, 'I'm sorry. We did all we could,
> but your boy didn't make it.'
>
>
> Sally said,
> 'Why do little children
> get cancer ?
> Doesn't God care any more ?
> 'Where were you, God,
> when my son needed you ?'
>
> The surgeon asked,
> 'Would you like some
> time alone with your son ? One of the nurses will be out in
> a few minutes,
> before he's transported
> to the university.'
>
> Sally asked the nurse to
> stay with her while she said good bye to her son.
> She ran her fingers lovingly through
> his thick red curly hair.
> 'Would you like a lock of his hair ?' the nurse
> asked.
>
> Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy's
> hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally.
>
> The mother said,
> 'It was Jimmy's idea
> to donate his body to
> The University for Study.
> He said it might help somebody else.
> 'I said no at first, but Jimmy said, ' Mo m , I
> won't be using it after I die.
> Maybe it will help some other little boy
> spend one more day
> with his Mom .'
> She went on,
> 'My Jimmy had
> a heart of gold.
> Always thinking of
> someone else.
> Always wanting to help others
> if he could.'
>
> Sally walked out of Children's Mercy Hospital for the
> last
> time, after spending most of the last six months there.
> She put the bag with Jimmy's belongings on the seat
> beside her in the car.
>
> The drive home was difficult. It was even harder
> to enter the empty house.
> She carried Jimmy's belongings, and the plastic bag
> with the lock of his hair
> to her son's room.
>
> She started placing the model cars and other personal
> things back in his room exactly where
> he had always kept them.
> She laid down
> across his bed
> and, hugging his pillow,
> cried herself to sleep.
>
> It was around midnight
> when Sally awoke.
> Laying beside her on the bed was a fo lded l etter.
> The letter said:
>
> * Dear Mom ,
> I know you're going to miss me; but don't think
> that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just
> 'cause I'm not around to say
> 'I Love You' .
> I will always love you, Mom , even more with each day.
> Someday we will see
> each other again.
> Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy
> so you won't be so lonely, that's okay with me..
> He can have my room and all my stuff to play with.
> But, if you decide to get a girl instead,
> she probably wouldn't like the same things us boys do.
> You'll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you
> know.. Don't be sad
> thinking about me.
> This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as
> soon as I got here
> and showed me around some, but it will take a long time
> to see everything.
> The angels are so cool.
> I love to watch them fly.
> And, you know what?
> Jesus doesn't look
> like any of his pictures.
> Yet, when I saw Him,
> I knew it was Him.
> Jesus himself took me to see GOD !
> And guess what, Mom ?
> I got to sit on God's knee
> and talk to Him,
> like I was
> somebody important.
> That's when I told Him that
> I wanted
> to write you a letter,
> to tell you good bye
> and everything.
> But I already knew that wasn't allowed.
> Well, you know what Mom ? God handed me some paper and His
> own personal pen
> to write you this letter.
> I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to
> drop this letter off to you.
> God said
> for me to give you
> the answer
> to one of the questions you asked Him
> 'Where was He
> When I needed him ?'
> 'God said
> He was in the same place with me,
> as when
> His son Jesus,
> was on the cross.
> He was right there, as H e Always Is
> With All His Children .' Oh, by the way, Mom ,
> no one else can see what I've written ...except you.
> To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper.
> Isn't that cool ?
> I have to give God
> His pen back now.
> He needs it to write some
> more names in
> The Book of Life.
> Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper.
> I'm sure the food will be great.
>
> Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore.
> The cancer is all gone.
> I'm glad because I couldn't
> stand that pain anymore
> ...and God
> couldn't stand to see me hurt so much, either.
> That's when He sent
> The Angel of Mercy
> to come get me.
> The Angel said,
> I was a Special Delivery !
> How about that ?
>
> Signed With Love from God, Jesus & Me.

Top text message that I receive everyday....

where are you?
saan ka?---in Filipino

AVOID THE HEARTBREAK OF EMOTIONAL PROMISCUITY

-Whitney Hopler-

“If you guard your heart and pursue purity in every part of your life—not just physically—you will experience the blessing of God’s best for your relationships.”

1. Recognize the POWER of EMOTIONS

Know that the DEEPEST emotions are much too valuable to share with someone who is not yet committed to you, as a fiancé or spouse would be. There is NO such thing as ‘casual dating’ because any romantic interaction stirs up powerful emotions.

2. Realize emotions CAN’T BE TRUSTED

Know that emotions aren’t stable enough to build a relationship on; they CONSTANTLY change with your circumstances, and they can DECEIVE you. Don’t let yourself become so distracted by your emotions that you CAN’T THINK through your relationship or DISCERN God’s guidance concerning them.

3. Know that there is a LOT MORE TO RELATIONSHIPS than romance

Ask God to purify you MOTIVES when interacting with members of the opposite gender. Try to love everyone with brotherly or sisterly love.

4. Pursue PURITY in every part of your life

Rather than trying to push the limits of purity by seeing how close you can get to the LINE OF SIN, decide to see how CLOSE you can get to God. Make it a habit to read, study and meditate on God’s word often. Embrace biblical truth because it will strengthen and protect your heart.

5. Live by FAITH instead of feelings

Understand that a variety of circumstances can trigger a variety of feelings at any given time, but those feelings will be INCONSISTENT and not reliably reflect reality. Decide to live according to what is TRUE—biblical principles—instead of just according to how you happen to feel.

6. Manage your emotions so THEY DON’T MANAGE YOU

Whoever controls your emotions controls you. Lock your emotions away from people who aren’t worthy of receiving them, so they won’t be mishandled and cause you pain. Keep you emotions secure until the RIGHT PERSON comes along. Then you can unleash them with joy in a passionate, committed relationship, as God intends.

7. Protect the WHOLE you

Recognize that your spiritual, physical and emotional components are connected in many ways. Guard yourself in all three areas. Love God with all your heart, soul and mind.

8. Instead of just waiting to meet the right person, BECOME THE RIGHT PERSON for you future spouse

Don’t waste your time wondering when the romantic partner of your dreams will enter your life. Decide to LIVE OUT YOUR FAITH FULLY while you wait, trust in God’s promises, and embrace opportunities to GROW into the type of person God wants you to become before He brings your future spouse to you. Understand that marriage doesn’t involve two people hoping to complete each other; it involves TWO WHOLE PEOPLE WHO LOOK TO GOD TO COMPLETE THEM.

9. Set BOUNDARIES

Set boundaries to GUARD your heart before you’re in a situation where you need to put boundaries into practice. Boundaries aren’t meant to prevent you from having fun; they enable you to LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST by living at the center of God’s will.

10. Wait for GOD’S BEST (GB)

Waiting for the right person and the right time to get married is worthwhile. Embrace this season and make of the freedoms you have as a single person. Don’t rush into any relationships; pray THOROUGHLY about them.

11. Be CAREFUL on the Internet

The internet’s anonymity makes it an especially dangerous place to engage in relationships. Set limits on how frequently you email members of the opposite gender who aren’t family members. Make sure you’re always spending MORE TIME WITH GOD THAN YOU ARE ONLINE.

12. Escape emotional ENTANGLEMENTS

Realize that true fulfillment is FOUND ONLY IN GOD and not in the things of the world. Live with integrity, without pretending to be SOMEONE YOU’RE NOT to try to IMPRESS a potential romantic partner. DON’T BE AFRAID to end an emotionally impure relationships (ones that isolate you from God, your friends, or your family or ones in which you cross boundary lines or compromise your convictions). Accept God’s forgiveness for your mistakes, and embrace the grace He offers you to HEAL.

13. Embrace your FIRST LOVE

Remember that no one can ever love you more than Jesus, your FIRST LOVE. Passionately pursue intimacy with Him while you wait for your GB. Decide to put at least as much time and energy into your relationship with Jesus as you would into a romantic relationship. Give your heart completely to Jesus to discover the GREATEST LOVE OF ALL.

14. Live with NO REGRETS

Be WILLING to GET RID of anything that is interfering with your pursuit of purity, NO MATTER WHAT IT COSTS YOU to do so. Don’t pursue any romantic relationship until: YOU’RE SPENDING TIME WITH GOD on a daily basis, you have a list of what you are looking for in a life partner, you have a list of things you will and won’t do in a relationship, and you have CLEARANCE FROM GOD and the AUTHORITIES (parents) He has put in your life to proceed with a romantic relationship.

Every first week of classes are supposed to be somehow taken lightly, especially the first day. But this time, NO!
Our first two classes were light and we just had orientation. For the third and last subject, we had orientation and a heavy loaded assignment/research paper which was due the next meeting.Not just that! We need to study our paper for the graded recitation. Fortunately, that class is on Tuesdays and Thursdays and our first class will start every noon. What a sort of relief and help.

So what's the paper about? hahaha! It's about these nine philosophers of the pre-Socratic period. I was not able to sleep and eat because of it. Our professor did not check nor collect it so there's a great room for improvement. Our research will serve as our "book" for our subject because we don't have a reference book.(great! right?!) So it means that we need to read a lot for the sake of a passing mark and not to get zero for the recitations.